It’s not a gesture but it is a state of mind. Usually we think, To say “It’s OK” is enough or to escape from the hurtful situation and staying busy with the day to day tasks is better to overcome the hurtful situations, annoying memories/person and we can deal with it later on. But we don’t realize that all the associated pain, anger, anxiety; resentment will remain the same or in fact will grow with the passage of time, in lack of proper attention and cure.
There is a misconception in our minds about forgiveness that it is for others or related to the person who hurt us, betrayed us, wronged us & so on. But the fact is–Forgiveness is majorly for us, for our well being. YES indeed!
You must be thinking how we can forgive those who gave us immense pain, left us broken, having ego & no signs of guilt, they don’t worth it etc. But here let me clarify forgiveness is not for their sake. We should forgive them for our sake. OK tell me what will happen to that person if we hold grudges and pain inside us? Nothing !That person won’t give a damn,Trust me. They will remain unaware or unchanged. So who will be the worst sufferer? It’s you & not them. Now an interesting question suddenly popped up in our mind that if it is not going to change that person or they won’t feel any shame or guilt about it then why should we forgive. HMMMM…Let me tell you the why’s:
1.Stress Reduction: To let go the past and by forgiving the person, you will be free from all the pain, grudges, bruises, bad memories associated with the person. But for this you have to forgive them by heart and not just with the words. It will soothe your mind and relax your stressed nerves.
2.Heart care: When we think about the person who annoyed us ,usually our heart rate increases, our heart gets tired & weak easily and it is not good for our health. So now if you will forget the past and forgive that person it will make your heart calm and normalize the heartbeat.
3.Peace of mind: We all are having soul and it gets uneasy with negative/low thoughts, vibes & gestures. By adopting forgiveness we can easily achieve the higher state of spirit, peace of mind because no longer the person or the memories will affect us.
4.Happiness: By holding the past we cannot live fully & freely. Forgiveness sets us free and moreover it changes our mood and makes us a happy person. We feel much lighter and energetic because now there is nothing which can suck our energy and upsets our mood.
5.Strong relations: When you make forgiveness a state of mind you will see noticeable changes in the behavior of people around you .It improves your image & respect in their hearts. Moreover it builds up strong and transparent relations with the people you are surrounded by.
6.Karmic account: Life is a boomerang. The person who is doing bad eventually will receive the fruit, you just stay out of it and do what you can do best for yourself and others. Our deeds, actions, words in short our karma, returns to us with astounding accuracy. Sooner or maybe later but it will comeback. Hence it is better to forgive people for their wrong doings as god is watching he will do the justice .We should forgive others for their sins and he (god) shall forgive us for ours.
To sum up I can only say forgiveness is a precious gift you will be giving to yourself. So forgive with an open heart and receive the blessings!