Expect Less – Stay Cool 

We are individuals. Connected with different people,societies, groups, relations but still  Individuals. Often we complain that we are stressed/hurt because of others. We blame it on our spouse, kids, friends, peers etc. But we never try to think the base of the problem –Our Expectations!

Yeah I know you must be thinking these people are close to us, we did so much for them, it’s their responsibility to listen to us/do as we tell them or we told them to do so as we care about them etc.

All these reasons doesn’t matter actually. The cause of our pain & stress is our expectations from them. Let me tell you, nobody in this world can be bound by anyone.We all have the right to act as we want, though I am not saying that omit your duties at the office or home.The thing is just because someone is close to you it doesn’t mean you have all the rights to restrict their independence or free will.

Don’t push people to act/think or say as per your wish.Not only this will hurt you but also it will push them away from you.Most importantly it will suck your own inner peace, calmness & composure.

Let’s have a look at the benefits of not having expectations from others:

1. Priority & Urgency: Only you can understand the priority & urgency of your work and no one else. If you keep expecting from others to do your work. It’s likely to get delayed, mismanaged or totally forgotten. Other than you nobody can take your work that much seriously. Better to finish most of your urgent work by yourself.

2. Free from Stress: When we expect things from others and they refuse or forget to do so then it creates stress and insecurities in our mind. We create thousands of thoughts over it unnecessarily and keep on thinking about it again and again. The less you expect from others the less stressed you will be.

3. No Hurts: When someone close to us, Spouse, Kids, family, friends, relatives failed to meet our expectations then we feel hurt. Sometimesit’s a small disappointment and sometimes it leads to a chronic heartbreak. So why to give yourself so many negative emotions & traumas, Do not expect in the first place.

4. Healthy Relations: When we impose expectations on people (I am not talking about professional) they feel suffocated. However, they do it anyway because of love/obligation/respect but they do feel uneasy. This creates distance in relations. To pursue loving & healthy relations don’t expect from others, especially your loved ones.

5. Creativity: People who don’t expect from others are more creative than others.They get ample chances/angels to think about their work/project/issue because they know it the best.They put more effort into their work to get done.They work with more efficiency and focus.

I hope, after reading this you will do more and expect less.

Cheers!

Faith n Love

R.J

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Get rid of your stress !!

Mind never sleeps. Even though we sleep for a while , Brain is still working. In a day we have approx 60-70 Thousand thoughts which keeps on rotating the whole day at our mind slate.

We are in so much stress now a days for one reason or another.Reason can be anything,Relations,Work,Studies,Finance,Health & so on.We keep on thinking over a problematic thought or number of thoughts again and again.That causes stress, not only in our mind but also in our body and both became weak.We can’t control the thoughts but we can control our mind and reactions to stay calm.

Let’s have a look how to let go the stress & calm your mind:

1. Check your inner chatter : Yes, we keep on chatting inside about a situation or another the whole day or a large part of the day. Try to tame it.Rather saying negative about yourself or a problem , keep on saying I can do it,I love myself, I am able to handle this,This too shall pass.Make your inner words positive and motivating.By doing this not only you will create a good self image but also your way of thinking will change.It helps long way in calming your mind.

2. Positive mental attitude : Whenever a situation arises, think positively about it.Rather thinking why,when,how it happened or happening, Think about Now what can be done to resolve it.Sometimes problems are not to obstruct you but to instruct you,Learn the lesson from.it.Try to Look at the brighter side always.

3. Live in the present : Most of us are in stress because of thinking about the past or about the future.Both of them isnt in our hands.We are only having the present.Make it better.Think about the present day scenario and what you can do about it.The rest will be settled automatically if you make your present worthy.

4 Exercise: Exercise is a good stress buster.I am not saying go to the gym and spend half of the day there,Nope! Just do some sort of exercise so that your body can release the toxins.Go for a walk, yoga,meditation,cardio,swimming,stair climbing,boxing or simply a deep breathing will do.The more you take the fresh air inside you the more your brain will be cooled down.

5. Stop Blaming: I know people can hurt us knowingly or unknowingly. But by blaming them we give them authority to control our mind and moods.Take charge of what happened to you and think what lesson you got from this situation and how to grow out of it.By doing this you can control your mind,mood swings and reactions.

6.Sleep Well: I know work is important but so your health.Give your self a good night sleep.It means not only improve the quantity of sleep but the quality of sleep as well.Switch of all your gadgets or keep them away from you.Dont watch any videos or TV before going to bed.Try not to think about anything but if you cannot do it just think of something that makes you smile.And with the good image close your eyes and sleep.

7.Love your self : It is the most important thing to remain clam and stress free.Above all love yourself.Do what ever makes you happy (without hurting people).Join some hobby class,apend time with family & friends,watch comedy movies, Dance,Sing,write,cook,paint etc. just do what makes you feel warm and gives you joy.

8. Grab positive information only: when ever you are in a bad mood listen to a self development audio,video or read aa motivating book.It help in reducing your stress and channelise your mood into positivity.Don’t read/listen/watch anything bad or negative especially newspapers, in the morning because at this time the mind is in the most adaptive form.What ever is your intake at this time will afftect your thoughts the whole day.Think of good things in the morning and also when you go to bed and notice the difference between the past you and the new you.

9. Surround yourself with positive people: Our company pays a dominant role in our thought process/mood swings.Stay away from the people who are negative in their approach or bully you or make fun of others or having the “Glass is half empty” approach.Surround your self with people who are positive talkers,who motivates you,see good in you, emphasise on good things about the life.

I hope and wish you will work on it and keep yourself stress free.

God Bless ! 

Faith n Love,

R.J

Meeting with a special person after so long :)

Hey there ! All you lovely people.

We all have some people in our lives who are very special to us.They can be our family members,our friends,our gf-bf or Tagless relations. Sometimes life make us move in different directions. We get busy/stuck/engaged with one thing or another and just go with the flow.It doesn’t mean we forget them.They are always in our mind but because of some reasons we stay away for a while.

But all of a sudden when you get a chance to meet them, It is a moment of immense joy.

Let’s have a look what happens when we meet our special person/people.

1. Happiness: Obviously it’s a happy moment.We get so happy & excited while seeing them after so long.Anyone can see your eyes and tell that you are going through a wonderful emotion and infact no one else is required to say that because you know that actually you are filled with joy 🙂

2. Silence : Yep,A moment of silence is always there because you want to see them how they are now,how they look now and a memory of the past glimple of theirs comes into your mind.

3. Short of words : We have so much to say,so much to share but we get stuck at from where to start the conversation.We are so filled with emotions & joy that sometimes we are short of words.

4. Sharing & Listening : As we get settled with our emotional outbursts we share so many things.Not just sharing we want to listen from them that how they are,how’s the life going, what are the future plans etc.We do share pains & feelings and are likely to be with each other in thick & thin.

5. Food & Ambiance: Well it doesn’t matter where we are sitting and what we ordered to eat as we are so busy in talking to them and staring at them that sometimes our hot coffee becomes cold coffee with out any extra charge 😉

6. Promises : At the end of the meeting we became sad & happy both.We wish them best for their lives and make promises to get in touch.Sometimes promises are given with a tight hug & sometimes they are unsaid, well told and understood without any words just with an eye talk.

May God bless all of you and your loved/special ones!

Love n Faith

R.J

Your Thoughts + Your Feelings = Your Reality!

Hi Guys! Hope you all are doing great at the beginning of this freshly arrived year 2018.

As the year has started, some of you must be having some resolutions for the New Year and some of you must be thinking what is the need of any resolution just go with the flow. You are absolutely right as it is totally your choice to make a change in your life or not. Only we can make or change our reality. Ahmnn I know you must be thinking that this is all rubbish,how can we make or change our current situation as none of us want any illness,job loss,family issues,relationship hurts,financial losses but they do occur without our wish. No doubt situation occurs but how to react,feel about it ..Is totally our choice.

Everything in this world is made of energy and vibrations, human body itself. What ever you think or feel it makes your viberations and when you emit it outside by saying ,thinking, feeling it attracts the identical things and situations in your life which can be positive or negative as per your thoughts and feelings. For Ex: Think of a bad day when you thought or felt and kept on saying that it is a bad day, you received more of bad news or situations on that particular day Or just Remind of a beautiful morning when you were happy,enjoying the day and more good things happened to you.

This is not a philosophy or illusion or coincidence its purely science and universal law working behind it I;e Law of Attraction 

( you must have read/heard about quantum physics it tells the same)It works on free will as it cannot be imposed or isn’t a hypnosis or magic to change others thoughts and behavior.

According to this universal law what we keep on thinking and believing it starts happening to us and becomes our reality. In easy words whatever you think and start believing on a continuous basis  will come to you sooner or later . Let us know how we can use this law for us:

  1. For Financial Gains:  Don’t keep on thinking or worrying  about the payments or loans instead start thinking about abundance, abundance of cash, cheques instead of bills. Shift your focus from negative to positive aspects and you will see money will flow to you in any form either in cash or a new idea to make money. Results will be fruitful but you have to believe strongly that you are already having all the finances you want, whether you have it right now or not and feel joy.

  1. For Good Relationships : No matter you are single, married,Looking for a romantic relationship ,strong friendship or want to have peace and love in family members, everything is possible.Just start saying to you that all your relationships are loving and strongly knitted and you will see those who are hurting you will either become calm or will go far from you and eventually everything will be on its right place.If you are single and want a loving partner start believing that you are already having him/her and be happy,behave like a engaged person,treat your self as you want your partner to treat you ,be kind to everyone and you will find a beautiful relation very soon.

  1. For a New Job : To get a new job or new opportunity in life start behaving as you are already having it. Wake up early in the morning,have a walk,dress well ,have your dinner and go outside home and do whatever you want Go for movie ,for a skill development class or even for an interview. Think of what you will do with your first salary/income, visualize it as you are having it in your hands/bank account. The more you think & believe it the more quickly it will come to you.

  1. For Healthy Mind & Body: If you want good health keep on thinking healthy .Even if your body is not well right now you start believing that you are perfectly all right.Dont spread negativity about your health by saying a number of people that you are not well as it will bring more negativity towards your health, always say I am healthy I am perfectly all right whenever somebody ask you about your health. Continue with the medications but create powerful thoughts and belief about healthy you and you will see surprising changes in your health.

  1. For Necessities or luxuries: What you want in your life either necessary things or luxuries just give good vibrations to it by thinking good about it. Never think that you are not capable of having those things due to any blab la reason .Make you believe strong and thoughts positive about the things you want and you will have it directly or will get an idea to have it in your life. Just keep on working to get what you want positively and for sure you will find that thing or even better things in your life.

  1. For Self Respect & Confidence: If you wanna get respect from others start giving it to yourself and others around you. The more you ‘ll be good towards you and others the more you will get it from others. Nobody is gonna love you if you don’t love yourself and moreover a person who cannot love him/her self, is not able to love others as well. Think good about yourself and people around you and soon the scenario will shift from bad to good, good to better.

  1. For Peace & Prosperity : Peace is not outside its an inner thing. To have peace in your mind,life,relations,work start thinking peaceful thoughts,imagine peaceful scenarios,say calming words to you and people you are surrounded by. Don’t think about scarcity instead think of abundance of health wealth and prosperity . As you emit prosper thought and feel good about it ,things will fasten their way towards you.

All in all I can say it’s a believers thing just like you believe, there is god and if you don’t then he is just a statue.

God Bless !

Faith n Love 

RJ

Early Morning Treasure !

Good morning, all the lovely people out there ! In today’s busy schedule we are moving at a fast pace. While doing our work, day becomes noon and noon to full moon. We miss the early morning nature dose and the basking in the sun. 

Yes right we have so much to do,ontime office arrival,meetings, lectures, discussions,paperwork,presentations,business tours,household work,children,social tasks bla bla bla but wait for a while before jumping into the everyday routine of yours and cherish the prevalage that nature offers us in abundance.

“The Early Morning Treasure”

Early Morning has a bunch of good things for us like:

1.Freshness in the air : No traffic ,no jams,No dust,No pollution, no smoke , at this time the air is very fresh and light . Go for a walk and get your lungs filled with the right intake.

2. Beautiful surroundings : In the morning there is a charming surrounding outside the closed doors.Have a gaze at the Cool orange sun,greener leaves ,dark trees, refreshing breeze and a new uncovered sky.

3. Calmness : It gives us peace and calmness which we don’t get from any other time of the day.At this point of time everyting is very slow,peaceful and clam.We can walk ,do yoga, read a book, sip a warm cup of tea or simply do nothing but enjoy the beauty of silence.

4. Closeness to nature : Early mornings gives us the opportunity to get close to the nature and it’s belongings i;e We can enjoy  chirping of the birds, the sound of the wind, the movement of leaves ,the smell of moist earth/ trees ,can sit or walk in the woods for some time and admire god’s beautiful creations.

5. Easy time : There is no hustle at this point of time, early risers knows the beauty and ease of it. We get ample of time to do our work , to enjoy the morning freshness, rythm of the nature ,our own company and top of all stress less moments.

There is no wrong in the saying – Early to bed and early to rise , makes a man healthy wealthy and wise . Indeed we get all these from the nature’s treasure in the most beautiful time of the day.

Rise n shine 🙂

God bless !

Faith n Love

R.J

Last Day At Office !

Hola ! All the beautiful people out there . Yeah I know I was disappeared for a while :p but I am back now.Okay no more random talk ,Today I am here to share few things about our workplace where we work for a long time,spend most of our days,learn new things,have new experiences and yes make friends.

So what happens when it’s your final day at your office??
1. A bunch of Mixed feelings : Yes we are happy when we get a new job with better salary or getting retired and going to have rest but definitely there is a corner of our heart and mind which is attached to our office and feeling down while leaving that place.After all we have so many memories and people associated with it.

2. Final Visit  : Before leaving we surely never forget to take a round of our workplace the last time.Each of its corner,room has a memory of its own and we want to recall them once before going.

3 . Farewell : It’s the most emotional moment of out official life when everyone is showing love and appreciation towards you and giving you good wishes for the future.Mementos are given to you so that you can always have this special memory with you.After the party,chit chat you leave the office by bidding good bye with all the beautiful memories & experiences associated with it.

Believe me, it’s hard to leave the place where you had a lot of Good time and experiences. But every end comes with a new beginning, So enjoy !
God bless !

Faith n Love

R.J

Manage Your Anger -It’s consuming you and not others.

World is full of geniuses & Stupids and sometimes we are one of them.In our daily routine we face many situations and people where we have to get out of our comfort zone and yes out of mind too…

Anger is the exact word we can use for this.We get angry on many things from a little noise to a big rejection. We yell at people concerned or not concerned to the problem,we behave weirdly or in worst cases we break things or hurt ourself/people as well.

This is not at all good.Every situation can be handled ,every problem can be resolved with patience and right actions and if it is not in your hand then there is no point to react irrationally on it.

Let’s see how this habit of yours can harm you in long run:

1. It’s a Habit : Yes you get me right anger is not an expression or reaction it’s an habit.if you wont control when you are becoming angry and you keep on giving weird expressions/ gestures mark my words you will definitely develop nasty habit of becoming angry on most probably each n ever small thing and you won’t even realise it till will become hard to change.

2. Murderer of peace of mind : Anger kills your inner peace.It will not only harm your calmness but also will damage your positive attitude.An angry person isn’t able to think in good manner.It may or may not harm other person but definitely it will damage you from within.

3 . Depletes your Goodwill : NO one likes harsh words/ reactions . Once you set an angry bird image in people’s mind nobody will respect you or infact no one will be happy to be with you.A moment of anger can change your whole character infront of society.

4 . Bitter Relationships : Believe me nobody is gonna check what is in your heart.People will only assume what they will see. Each of your angry reaction or statement will create distance between you and your loved ones.

5. Cause of Health issues :You yourself pushing you towards illness. When you are angry your mind starts running and creates a number of negative thoughts and reactions.It damages your nerves.Due to this health issues arises like depression,stress,facial twitching, shivering, insomnia, High BP and what not.

6. Financial loss : Whether you are doing job or running a business few essential things are required, Calmness,quick decision making power,analytical skills, soft as well as strong communication skills and a smiling face.If you are an angry person you will lack all of this and forsure it will lead to financial losses.

So basically your anger is consuming you and not someone else.Keep a regular check on it,apply stress management techniques (Meditation,Yoga,Deep Breathing etc)and stop it at the initial level before it goes out of your hand.

Take care & Live healthy.

God Bless !

Faith n Love

R.J